AWG Secular 12 Step Self-Esteem Group
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Zoom access and meeting times
Meetings are every Tuesday from 11 am to 12 pm Eastern US Time. See Meeting Time in a Different Time Zone
Join using same Zoom link every Tuesday. https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82411424876?pwd=UVg1c0ZXc1dGMmE1c1F5em9udGJjQT09
Meeting ID: 824 1142 4876
Code: 781927
Code: 781927
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Meeting description
This is a secular 12 Step meeting focused on self-esteem recovery for late-identified autistic women and members of all other marginalized genders (nonbinary, gender fluid, MTF/FTM trans, agender, autigender, and more).
We meet each Tuesday on Zoom, practice the AWG 12 Steps using the AWG 12 Step Workbook, share in response to weekly readings, and participate in the optional co-mentorship program if we so desire.
It is not mandatory to turn on your mic or camera. Coming to listen is totally fine. By taking part, we hold space for others, and ourselves, to participate in a way that is manageable for us as we exist right now.
It is not necessary to actively be doing the AWG 12 Steps in order to be a full participant. Any contact with the group and its resources can be beneficial as long as it’s sustainable for each of us as individuals. Many of us participate simply by attending meetings.
As we participate in this meeting over time, we might find ourselves seeking to…
- Find our own concept of self-esteem and grow toward it
- Come to discover a more realistic sense of our place in the world
- Reassess our relationships, especially in terms of our responsibilities towards ourselves and others
- Come to understand personal boundaries, their roles in our lives, and how to develop and maintain healthy boundaries
- Understand the concept of nonviolent detachment and how and when to enact it
- Develop more manageable lifestyles
- Develop a sense of self that leads to more health, well being, and manageability in our lives
- Release others from the responsibility of defining or reinforcing our sense of self-esteem
- Form personal goals about self-esteem and self-concept based on our own understanding of our own needs, as they exist today
AWG 12 Step Self-Esteem Workbook
Step 1
We admitted that despite our efforts, many of the factors affecting our sense of self and self-esteem seemed out of control, leading to increased unmanageability in our lives.
Step 2
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Step 3
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Step 4
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AWG 12 Step Self-Esteem Readings
Personal values and masking
Tuesday, September 9, 2025
Have I adopted any values in order to mask more effectively?
I recently realized that I'd been adopting certain values purely to fit in with the people I was living around -- part of my "chameleon" strategy for coping socially in my pre-identification years. Now I'm going through my values and trying to decide what I do and don't truly believe in. It's not always easy when you factor in the impact of "survival mode" and trauma making certain ideas "stick", even when you don't truly believe in them. Has anyone here ever experienced anything similar?
Share questions:
- Have you ever adopted a value (consciously or unconsciously) for the sake of masking or fitting in, or just "being a normal person"? What was it?
- How did you realize that it wasn't your true value?
- Did the experience help you get closer to your real values? How?
- Did feeling unsafe ever keep you from relinquishing values that you would have otherwise rejected? Similarly, did feeling safe ever allow you to give up values that weren't yours?
- If you ever acted on a value that wasn't truly yours, were you able to make amends or get closure another way? Please describe.
- Any tools, strategies, or resources that helped you with this topic?
- Anything else to share?
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