AWG Secular 12 Step Self-Esteem Group
Code: 781927
Meeting description
- Find our own concept of self-esteem and grow toward it
- Come to discover a more realistic sense of our place in the world
- Reassess our relationships, especially in terms of our responsibilities towards ourselves and others
- Come to understand personal boundaries, their roles in our lives, and how to develop and maintain healthy boundaries
- Understand the concept of nonviolent detachment and how and when to enact it
- Develop more manageable lifestyles
- Develop a sense of self that leads to more health, well being, and manageability in our lives
- Release others from the responsibility of defining or reinforcing our sense of self-esteem
- Form personal goals about self-esteem and self-concept based on our own understanding of our own needs, as they exist today
AWG 12 Step Self-Esteem Workbook
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Step 2
Step 3
Step 4
AWG 12 Step Self-Esteem Readings
When my needs affect others
How can I avoid a self-esteem backlash from putting my needs first?
My disability sometimes has an impact on others. I might need more help than expected, have to cancel a plan, or not provide certain kids of support to friends. Those situations used to make me feel "less than". It has taken me a while to leave those feelings behind after learning I'm autistic and that my needs are not a fault, but a right.
Over time, I've managed to build my needs into my relationships by making sure my friends and family know what they are. So when I need to cancel before a get-together, leave early, or take a break from communication, it doesn't feel mysterious or surprising. Overall, it's a relief to be able to be open about my needs without fear of a self-esteem backlash. Sure, not everybody gets it. But most of the time, my sense of integrity and wellbeing is worth more to me at this point than pleasing everybody.
Share questions:
- How do you acknowledge the impact that your disability can sometimes have on others, without feeling like you have to apologize for who you are?
- Have you ever had a relationship where both you and the other person were on the same page about each other's needs? What was it like, and how did you get to that point?
- What is your self-esteem currently like around this topic?
- Do you carry any thoughts/emotions around this topic from your pre-identification years? Describe.
- Any resources, strategies, or tools that helped you?
- Anything else to share?