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Zoom access and meeting times

Meetings are every Tuesday from 11 am to 12 pm Eastern US Time. See Meeting Time in a Different Time Zone


Meeting ID: 824 1142 4876
Code: 781927

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Meeting description

This is a secular 12 Step meeting focused on self-esteem recovery for late-identified autistic women and members of all other marginalized genders (nonbinary, gender fluid, MTF/FTM trans, agender, autigender, and more).

We meet each Tuesday on Zoom, practice the AWG 12 Steps using the AWG 12 Step Workbook, share in response to weekly readings, and participate in the optional co-mentorship program if we so desire.

It is not mandatory to turn on your mic or camera. Coming to listen is totally fine.
By taking part, we hold space for others, and ourselves, to participate in a way that is manageable for us as we exist right now.

It is not necessary to actively be doing the AWG 12 Steps in order to be a full participant.
Any contact with the group and its resources can be beneficial as long as it’s sustainable for each of us as individuals. Many of us participate simply by attending meetings.

As we participate in this meeting over time, we might find ourselves seeking to…

• Find our own concept of self-esteem and grow toward it
• Come to discover a more realistic sense of our place in the world
• Reassess our relationships, especially in terms of our responsibilities towards ourselves and others
• Come to understand personal boundaries, their roles in our lives, and how to develop and maintain healthy boundaries
• Understand the concept of nonviolent detachment and how and when to enact it
• Develop more manageable lifestyles
• Develop a sense of self that leads to more health, well being, and manageability in our lives
• Release others from the responsibility of defining or reinforcing our sense of self-esteem
• Form personal goals about self-esteem and self-concept based on our own understanding of our own needs, as they exist today

AWG 12 Step Self-Esteem Readings

Asking for help

Tuesday, October 28, 2025

Working on my self-esteem has helped me start asking for help.

For years, a blank sense of self made it hard for me to ask for help. How could I ask someone to help "me"? How can anyone help a blank? Not only that, but because I felt blank inside, I feared that the helper's identity and goals would easily overshadow mine. Asking for help might lead to me disappearing altogether. Compared to that main existential issue, every other problem in my life felt inconsequential, like it would be wasting everyone's time to ask for help.

Learning I'm autistic slowly started to reverse this. I know who I am and don't feel like a blank anymore. I have goals, and any problems in my life feel consequential. Increasingly, I know what things help me physically and emotionally. And if I ever need help from someone else, I know what I want the other person to do, why, and how to describe it.  For all of these reasons, I'm more able to ask for help now than in the past.

Share questions:

  • Have you ever had difficulty asking for help? Why? 
  • Do you see a link between self-esteem and asking for help in your own life? How about a link between sense of self and asking for help? Please describe. 
  • In your own life, what kinds of things do you ask for help with? 
  • Do you still have trouble asking for certain kinds of help? What are they? Why might that be? 
  • Are there any connections between your experience of asking for help and being autistic? What are they?
  • Any tools, strategies, or resources that helped you? 
  • Anything else to add?
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AWG 12 Step Self-Esteem Workbook

Step 1

We admitted that despite our efforts, many of the factors affecting our sense of self and self-esteem seemed out of control, leading to increased unmanageability in our lives.

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