AWG Secular 12 Step Self-Esteem Group 🚀
Code: 781927
Meeting description
It is not mandatory to turn on your mic or camera. Coming to listen is totally fine.
By taking part, we hold space for others, and ourselves, to participate in a way that is manageable for us as we exist right now.
It is not necessary to actively be doing the AWG 12 Steps in order to be a full participant.
Any contact with the group and its resources can be beneficial as long as it’s sustainable for each of us as individuals. Many of us participate simply by attending meetings.
As we participate in this meeting over time, we might find ourselves seeking to…
• Find our own concept of self-esteem and grow toward it
• Come to understand personal boundaries, their roles in our lives, and how to develop and maintain healthy boundaries
• Understand the concept of nonviolent detachment and how and when to enact it
• Develop more manageable lifestyles
• Develop a sense of self that leads to more health, well being, and manageability in our lives
• Release others from the responsibility of defining or reinforcing our sense of self-esteem
• Form personal goals about self-esteem and self-concept based on our own understanding of our own needs, as they exist today
AWG 12 Step Self-Esteem Readings
Reshaping life around manageability
Manageability allows me to feel more in control of my life and aware of my patterns
From an anonymous contributor
The concept of "manageability" from the 12 Steps has been really helpful for me. My adult life always felt unmanageable, but before knowing how my brain works, I never really saw it as a thing that could be changed – I was just in reactive survival mode.
In the reconstruction of my "new life" post burnout / identification of my autism, manageability has felt like some sort of guiding force around which many things started coalescing – a bit like the chaos after the big bang slowly turned into planets by coalescing around centers of gravity. There are other guiding forces, too. But I have made a myriad of micro and macrochanges in my life to make it more manageable, creating systems to make things work for me – me specifically, not some abstract "universal" person. This has changed everything, from my life priorities, down to how I (don't) pair my socks (anymore).
Making myself comfortable was sort of an alien concept to me before. Manageability allows me to feel more in control of my life and aware of my patterns, and like I am a bit more able to make decisions rather than just dealing with whatever comes up. Manageability saves me a lot of energy and self-blame, and it encourages idealistic me to have a more pragmatic approach to things. It also reduces the stress of uncertainty about the future, by making things more sustainable. 20-year-old me would have thought it's boring, and I can't fully regret that – but now I actually find it more relaxing and honestly less harmful towards my own self. Manageability for me is a practical way to develop acceptance as well as sense of self and self-esteem.
Share questions:
- How do you compare manageability of your life pre and post identification (or questioning) of your autism?
- Is manageability a useful goal for you?
- Which aspects of your life are currently manageable, which aren't?
- What helps making things more manageable? Anything you thought would help, but didn't, or vice versa? Any perspectives, strategies, relationships?
- What is the relationship of manageability with self-esteem, self-acceptance, and satisfaction with your life, for you?
- Do things need to be predictable in order to be manageable, for you?
- Any tools, strategies, or resources that helped you?
- Anything else to add?
AWG 12 Step Self-Esteem Workbook
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